Before you choose a Halloween strategy for your family, be realistic about how your ex and you behave after the divorce or breakup.
I recently sat down with divorce coach and consultant Dominique Nicole of Divorzing.com to talk about the challenges of shared parenting time during the holidays and how to overcome them.
I have done divorce hearings on the day that should be its opposite: Feb. 14, St. Valentine’s Day. The irony does not escape my clients. I am sure they will always recall the DATE of their divorce and find the holiday bittersweet as a result. The truth is that this holiday can be trying for people who are divorcing, breaking up or newly divorced. The following are tips to make the most of the day despite this challenge. Continue reading “How to Enjoy Valentine’s Day as a Newly Single or Divorced Person”
As families come together for the holidays, there is the false reality of TV commercials where everyone is bathed in a glowing light toasting their good fortune. Even friends and relations seem to have it together as they boast about their perfect lives on Facebook.
But then you really think about it and realize that when you think of the people you know best, you know that their lives and families aren’t actually “perfect.” Every couple and family has their own sets of issues and struggles unique to them, some more serious than others.
Maybe your family is fortunate to be close-knit, and you think you don’t know anyone with family law issues. However, the facts are that family law issues affect more than one in two families. So even if you don’t have those issues, you definitely do know someone else dealing with them. Continue reading “Think You Don’t Know Anyone With Family Law Issues? Think Again.”
Over the river and through the woods takes on a new meaning when a judge must decide whether to grandmother’s house you go.
Judges may cringe as the holidays approach, knowing parents will be rushing into court with “emergencies” involving out of state travel, pre-purchased plane tickets and disagreements over the interpretation of parenting plans. It is not unheard of for a judge to hold a phone conference or issue an order regarding whether a trip is allowed and where the children will spend their holiday time. But it is also common for judges to determine that this is not an appropriate “emergency” requiring a forthwith-emergency order. Married parents do not get to call in an officer of the court every time they cannot agree whether the children should visit dad’s parents or mom’s parents. It stands to reason that divorced parents, or those who formed a parenting plan after an allocation of parental responsibilities, should not be able to rush to court either.
The bottom line is that no one should want a judge to determine their holiday plans. I would like to say no one “wants this” rather than “no one SHOULD want this” but I have practiced long enough to know there are a few parents out there who relish in the drama of court proceedings and cannot wait for the next “emergency” battle. For those of us who do NOT think an emergency trip to court or mediation makes a good holiday tradition, the following are some tips to squash some of the drama before it happens. Continue reading “Shared Parenting: 10 Tips for Happy Holidays”