Each month for one year, the Andersen Law PC blog will spell out the 12 steps of divorce.
In doing so, we will also track two divorcing couples making their way through the process.
Spoiler alert: Art and Angela Aingel take the high road. While divorce is not usually a fun process (I have yet to hear someone tell the judge at final orders, “Thank you, sir, may I have another?”), the Aingels have a relatively straightforward experience before moving forward with their separate lives. Meanwhile, Draco and Desdemona DeVille make choices that, while initially tempting, detour them down a bad road laden with unnecessary drama, painful court appearances and skyrocketing costs.
The following is a roadmap of the 12 steps of a divorce proceeding. And if you want to divorce in less than a year, feel free to call me with questions specific to your situation. I am happy to walk you through your own next steps and to answer questions in your complimentary initial phone or videoconference consult.
Here are how we will cover the 12 steps of divorce:
January: serving and filing a petition for dissolution
February: responding to the petition
March: sworn financial statement, disclosures, and parenting classes
April: the initial status conference
May: discovery and depositions
June: hiring a CFI, PRE, vocational evaluator, real estate appraiser and other experts
July: motions to compel and telephone conferences
August: temporary orders
October: parenting plans and separation agreements
November: witnesses, pretrial deadlines and permanent orders
December: QDROs and other post decree issues
So let’s continue with August.
August: ‘It’s Only Temporary’: THE TEMPORARY ORDERS HEARING
Desdemona DeVille and Angela Aingel sat on the bench by the country club where they had just finished a less-than-heated round of tennis.
The whole match, Desdemona had kept stopping play and motioning Angela to the net so she could either boast about the Motion to Compel she had served on her soon-to-be-ex-husband Draco, complain about the exact same motion, which Draco had served, on her or both.
“I cannot wait to drag that man into court again,” Desdemona announced angrily after the match. “Over my dead body will Draco get this country club membership!” Desdemona was shouting loud enough to echo across the nearby courts to hear. She saw a member of a nearby foursome rushing off to the clubhouse and hoped it was not to complain about Desdemona’s antics. Angela remembered that Desdemona had been politely removed from the summer league due to her frequent outbursts after putting lemon vodka in her water bottle.
As usual, Desdemona was a lot more worried about her own emotions than any effect the volume of her rant might have on those nearby. She waved her racquet over her head for emphasis, complaining, “Draco says he needs the club membership for his business developments. Hmmph! What about my business and my personal development? This is where I plan to meet my next husband!”
“What about Danny?” Angela asked, referring to the younger man Desdemona had been dating ever since she and Draco were on the outs.
“That boy toy? He’s just something to do,” Desdemona rolled her eyes. “I will never marry again without reviewing three months of his pay stubs and bonuses, taking a solo meeting with his financial advisor and at least three credit reports!” Continue reading “12 STEPS OF DIVORCE: Step 8 – Temporary Orders Hearing”